On feminine mystique.
We are never called on to parade our doubts or to express the hidden ecstasies of our life with God. The secret of the worker’s life is that he keeps in tune with God all the time. O.C.
"…but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.”
Are you experiencing great joy in your life? Tell it to God.
Are you experiencing great tribulation in your life? Take it to the Cross.
Are you beyond hurt by someone in your life? Pour out your heartache to Jesus.
As a woman, I speak to the women here, not men: Let us not diminish the mystery of our intimate souls by pouring out every emotion we experience into the forums of social media. People do not need to know every little detail about us; ministry can be done without betraying secret aspects of ourselves that are meant to be known only by Christ, and perhaps a future husband. Furthermore, let us not get into the habit of parading ourselves on sites such as Tumblr and Facebook. Do we really need to post these pictures of ourselves on such sites? Does the entire blogosphere need to know we’re having a hard day because we’re struggling with doubt/a crush/fear/anxiety? Have you told Jesus about these things first?
"For the LORD your God is a consuming fire, a jealous God."
A jealous God - jealous for your heart, your emotions, your experiences. You’re not going to find that sort of jealousy and vying for your attention on Tumblr - you just won’t.
Ladies, we like this quote, don’t we: “A woman’s heart should be so hidden in Christ that a man should have to seek Him first to find her.” And why do we like it? Because it talks about a man seeking after us. But, really, how many of us truly have a heart “hidden in Christ” - especially when we’re bombarded with a media that tells us to sell ourselves - our mind, our body, our personality - to every man that passes our way.
Hide yourselves in Christ, women, please. Enough with the passive-aggressive attempts for compliments or attention. You can have all that and more - abundantly more - when you ask it of your Prince - your most intimate Lover of your soul.
And if you marry, would you want to present to your husband a body and soul that has scattered remnants left of it around Tumblr and Facebook - an exasperation here about a certain crush, a proclamation of joy and excitement about a successful date there - especially if you do not marry these other boys that are, today, current and relevant in your lives.
Keep yourselves hidden, please. It is so much more beautiful and satisfying.
Leslie Ludy’s take:
“Gentle and quiet spirit” refers to a woman who is gracious, peaceful, serene, and quietly dignified—a woman who does not scrape and claw to be noticed and appreciated, but one who is fully content and secure in her relationship with her King. A woman with a gentle demeanor and quiet confidence in Christ will naturally guard the “hidden person” of her heart, because she understands what it means to protect the sacred. A woman that lives according to God’s pattern is captivating—because she stands out from among the throngs of women who are driven by selfishness and insecurity. As Song of Songs 2:4 says, “Like a lily among thorns, so is my darling among the maidens.” And as Proverbs 31 says, “”Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” (RSV) A woman who possesses the incorruptible beauty of true feminine mystery will outshine all the rest.
When the Bible speaks of the “hidden person of the heart” it’s talking about the secret, intimate part of who we are—the sacred core of our femininity. But if we embrace the “hold nothing back” version of womanhood we see all around us, we have no “hidden person of the heart” left to protect; everything we think, hope, dream, fear, and feel is all out there on display for the world to see. It’s impossible to possess the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit if we follow the worldly pattern of femininity.
There is a big difference between a young woman who is careful and guarded in her femininity because she is afraid of doing something wrong, and a young woman who guards her femininity out of love for Jesus Christ and honor for her future husband
A woman of honor is confident, friendly, outward focused and does not draw attention to herself, either by extreme shyness or by extreme forwardness. She is willing and able to talk to guys, encourage guys, and build them up as brothers in Christ. She is confident and poised, looks them in the eye, she excels in the art of Christ-honoring conversation with them. And yet, she does not quickly open up her heart to them. She is able to be a close sister and encourager without throwing the sacred core of her femininity to the wind.
And as the idea of feminine mystique specifically pertains to blogging, she writes,
“If being noticed, appreciated, and recognized is the motivation behind anything we do, we are headed down the wrong path, subtly stealing glory and seeking praise that belongs to our King alone…It is entirely possible to have a blog that mentions Jesus over and over again still be completely about you. Many Christian bloggers think they are pointing their readers to Jesus Christ, when in reality they are only exalting themselves.
When your blog becomes an outlet for your emotions, a showcase for your unique likes and dislikes, or a chance to voice your romantic dreams and desires, it makes your heart an open book for any guy to read whenever he wants. Not only does this destroy the natural mystery God gave you, but guys can also use the personal things you share on your blog as a way to manipulate your heart….Not exactly the recipe for godly feminine mystique.
Think about the gift of your soul that you want to present to a potential future husband. Think about the gift of your soul that already you are presenting to your Bridegroom. Is posting that one more picture of yourself, describing that one more heartache you’re going through, keeping your heart pure and a mystery before all but your Lord?
You want to be set apart - all women do; it’s part of our nature, the way our Creator designed us. But that is not accomplished by exuding your uniqueness for all to see and appreciate. Being set apart means that few will ever know you completely and intimately.
A secret loses its confidential and private characteristics when it’s known by many; a favorite secluded spot loses its allure when everyone knows its location; a locked chest is no good if everyone has the key.